Boys will be Joys

I am not trying to start a fight or anything, but can I just say, “Poor Miranda. Bless her heart!”

She had a moment y’all!

Have you seen the video?

She sings the first line or two of “Tin Man”, and then you can see her frustration rising. Her jaw sets, her lips purse and she is upset. She stops the song and tells those “girls” (grown women) to sit down and stop taking selfies.

Why was she so frustrated, though? I’m not sure any of us will ever know unless she decides to share.

Maybe someone kicked her cat, as my grandma used to say, right before the concert. (This author in no way condones kicking of any animal, even cats.)

I’ve had days like that.

When my oldest son was little, his best buddy, Jacob, came over to play all the time. We lived across the street from Jacob from the time the boys were two-years-old until they graduated from high school. They were at each other’s house so often that we kind of forgot which kid belonged in which house.

One day in particular, I was having a bad day. I don’t remember what happened to put me in a foul mood. I just remember hearing Jacob say, “Your mom is so lame.”

I laugh as I write that because my response was so ridiculous. I heard those words from that little boy, and then… I made him go home! LOL!

I. MADE. HIM. GO. HOME!!!

What on earth happened that day that could have made me so crazy?

A 10-year-old called me “lame”.

So what!

Something inside me snapped, though, and I kicked the poor kid out of my house.

I’m not sure I ever apologized to Jacob for that. So, if you’re reading this, Jacob, sorry about that. I hope I provided enough fruit snacks, waffles, and coffee to make up for it.

So, back to Miranda…

If you haven’t noticed, I’m pretty good at overthinking. If it were a sport, I would get some kind of medal. So, here are my overthought thoughts on the Miranda situation:

Apparently, a similar situation happened with Miranda in 2017, as well. Same song, but people were talking rather than taking pictures.

She said something like, “I hear talking. I’m literally out here with my diary for y’all to read”.

It was the first time she had performed that song in front of an audience, and she said she was super nervous. During that concert, she got away with just laughing it off, and acting like it was a joke.

After watching the actual clip from 2017, my suspicion is that “Tin Man” is extra special to her, more so than many of her other songs. I feel like that song is deeply personal to her.

Have you ever spoken to someone about something serious, something that affects you deeply? When you’re in a moment like that, willing to share and be vulnerable, it feels sort of sacred.

What if you’re in that moment, with your heart on the table, and you get interrupted?

Maybe the other person’s cellphone rings, and they have to take the call.

Maybe another person walks by and they say something like, “Hold that thought, I need to talk to them. Be right back!”

Maybe you just see their distraction and you know they are not present in the conversation.

At that moment, you feel a little less important, a little smaller. That moment no longer seems sacred. The moment has been violated, never to return to the pure vulnerability that it was before.

When the other person returns to the conversation and says, “Okay, what were you saying?”, you get a sick feeling in your stomach and you say, “Oh, I don’t even remember what I was saying or where I left off “, with a laugh and a smile.

Even though you know exactly what you were saying and exactly where you left off…

Okay, it’s way too serious, now – bring it in, Laura.

I do realize that Miranda Lambert is a star, and people paid a lot of money to see her perform. I do see both sides of this story and why fans would have strong feelings.

I guess my point is, sometimes we just forget that being famous does not make one any less human.

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